90% (this is not a proven statistic) of African women's priority is marriage. Like we are born to get married to some guy. Everything we do is centered around getting a good husband.
Go to school, get a degree so you can get a better husband.
Learn how to cook and cook your ass out so that you go see better husband marry you.
Go to the gym regularly and stay fit so you can look attractive for your "dream" man.
It goes on and on and on.
And our mothers won't even make things easier on you. They look for ways to link your mistakes to ways it can affect your chances of getting a good husband.
I remember some times last year when I went to a party with friends and got back around 10 pm (no thanks to Lagos traffic). My mum went all crazy on me "Kaylah! Is this how you'd be entering your matrimonial home late? Who will cook for your husband?".
...Like African women aren't supposed to live their own lives, set goals, pursue their passions, make something happen first.
Must marriage be the first thing on our list? Well I'm still trying to understand myself, marriage is like Number "I can't remember". I'm not in a rush to get married to one (at least no one don even ask me out sef).
But hey, this is just my opinion. I'm just a 23 year old trying to live her life, taking one step at a time.
What do you think though? I'd love to hear your views.
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This pisses me off too. i asked a lady one year like that HOW SHE SEES HER FUTURE, What Her Goals Were
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And I quote, "finish school, get a job, if husband comes, I marry."
She got disqualified****
Hehe "finish school, get a job, if husband comes, I marry."... Thank God you disqualified the babe. "Getting a Good Husband" is not the reason why we are created. Go out, figure out yourself, pursue your dreams, make mistakes, have fun... Now that's life! No be by all these "Husband over anything else" matter. (I just hope my mother doesn't read this reply because erm...)
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